To quote Syl Carson at Bodhi Yoga, “Wholeheartedness – marked by unconditional commitment, unstinting devotion, or unreserved enthusiasm. A word that expresses better what mindfulness as a technical term means; that you respond to every situation from your center, honest inner intent – from your heart – that you listen with your heart to every situation, and your heart elicits the response.”
Wholeheartedness, passion, feeling, mood and emotion are inextricably linked. It’s often clear when we are not living wholeheartedly because we noticed a dimming of every aspect of our lives from relationships to health. As we are all born as wholehearted beings, it feels like coming home once we return to living wholeheartedly. The real challenge is getting back home. Below are notable emotional signs of being in and out of wholeheartedness. Beyond those, are reflective questions for clarifying gaps in and helping guide you towards wholeheartedness.
Signs of living wholeheartedly:
- Yes and No are clear, easy
- Your countenance or essence can be felt
- Posture, movement and breath feel easy
- Giving from a “yes” place is energizing, inspiring
- Momentum is easy to keep
- Positive “coincidences” are plentiful
- Finding joy or gratitude in small things is easy
- Lack of worry and regret
- Overall ease of life
- Vulnerability comes easily
Signs of living non-wholeheartedly:
- Everything seems to take emotional effort
- Yes and no feel confusing, unclear or interchangeable
- The heart feels distance or dim
- A general dimming or greying of essence
- Placing judgement on the self and others is a first response
- Lack of willingness towards vulnerability
- Feeling like a victim to society
- Constant worry, regret and apprehension
Questions for reflection:
- What is one thing I do everyday that boosts my heart?
- What is one thing I do everyday that dims my heart?
- Who are 3 people in my life that always make me feel worthy?
- What activities (not work related) make me feel like I’m comfortable in my skin?
- When I feel dim, what is the first warning sign?
- What do I eat when my heart is bright and what do I eat when my heart is dim?
- What are 3 things I can do to boost people to live more wholeheartedly?
- What do I do to build trust in myself?
- What do I do to break trust in myself?
- What was the last ting that I did that was vulnerable that ended positively and brightened my heart.
Kiera Lucich is a neural integration specialist based in Salt Lake City, Utah. She’s the owner of Smart Move Wellness, a brain-based wellness company dedicated to educating and training people to heal chronic and trauma-associated pain. For more information visit smartmovewellness.com.