Healing, Personal thoughts, Philosophy, Smart Move

And then what?

Fear-setting is the new goal-setting. Made popular by Tim Ferriss, fear-setting is based on ideals of Stoic Philosophy and is essentially the practice of objective reasoning in the face of adversity. By being objective to our fears, potential for failure, and worst case scenarios, we make room for success. Or simply stated,

“The impediment to action advances action. That which stands in the way becomes the way.” -Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor 161-180

Fear-setting satiates nagging fears because instead of always “thinking positive and keeping our eye on the prize” we hone in on what are the actual implications of our bigger actions. By thinking big in success and failure, obstacles that present are not nearly as elephant-sized as they were in our head.

The abstraction of fear is often more agonizing than fear coming to fruition in the real world.

Although I urge you to research fear-setting and how it may work for you, the purpose of this post is to describe another helpful exercise to be used in accordance or separately from fear-setting. The concept of fear-setting is phenomenal for long term planning, soul digging and satiating fears. I find that it couples so well with this following exercise in fear management called, “And then what?” Based on the same principle, when we recognize a desire that has an accompanying fear, we must first ask from where is the fear coming, what is the worst case scenario, and lastly,

“and then what?”


Exercise: Follow the script below with honesty and compassion.

I have the need/purpose/drive/desire/God-calling to_________________________.

My biggest fear about that is______________________________.

The first thing I would do upon my biggest fear coming true would be_______________________________.

My biggest fear coming true would impact me by__________________________________.

And then__________________________________________ would happen.

And then______________________________________________.

And then__________________________________________.

And then______________________________________.

And then__________________________________.

And then______________________________.

My biggest fear about that is______________________________.

I can prevent my biggest fear from happening by___________________________________.

And then______________________________________________.

And then__________________________________________.

And then______________________________________.

And then__________________________________.

And then______________________________.


Changing our narrative is difficult. We specifically make up subconscious stories to keep our higher selves from pushing into deeper waters. The more aware and calm to the murky waters we can be, the better off we are in handling fear, failure and success. Take a deep breath and plunge into the discomfort of fear-setting.

 

 

Headshot2Kiera Lucich is a neural integration specialist based in Salt Lake City, Utah. She’s the owner of Smart Move Wellness, a brain-based wellness company dedicated to educating and training people to heal chronic and trauma-associated pain. For more information visit smartmovewellness.com.

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